Gotcha hihihihi….. I really don’t hate people. Just thought that was a good title. I find it weird and amazing when life goes through different seasons. Right now, I think I am in a season where I am meeting old friends. When we meet, we definitely get to catch up and share what has been happening in our lives.
Some of the conversations go almost like this. Imagine a met an old friend called Bartholomew.
Bartholomew : Hi, how are you?
Me : Hi, fiiiiiiine?
Bartholomew : Kwani, whatsapp?
At this point I could say something like ‘You know life?’ or I could just speak the truth. Many times I have lied and given the impression that everything is okay. But the times I was simply honest, and said , “Well, there is this thing that isn’t going very well”. At those moments, I have experienced deeper friendships. Why you may ask? Because the person I have shared with saw that I could trust them with some personal details of my life. I chose to share those details with them in particular because, for some reason, I believed that they were trustworthy enough.
If I was to be honest, most of the times I have shared deep personal matters was when I had reached rock bottom. At those moments I felt like I could not live for yet another day. I needed to talk about what was going on. Now being that I am wiser that I was yesterday B) . I am learning that I need not wait until I have reached that point.
Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. James 5:16 NKJV
We are all broken. We all admire guys who look like they have everything together. But the truth is, we are all broken. Not every area of our lives is perfect and working out as expected. It is so easy to go to God and cry to him about our secret sins, struggles and challenges. But sharing that with a fellow human being sometimes is hard. Especially when we want to maintain a image of ‘I have everything figured out‘ or ‘I am the once who gives advice, I don’t receive it‘. Or sometimes when we are in leadership, we think that those who we lead need a unbreakable strong leader who has things in control. Our reasons for not opening up are diverse. For me, these are some of mine.
But the truth is God alone is our strength. I am strong because God is strong in me. Realising that everyone is broken reminds me that everyone needs LOVE. I need it and the person next to me needs it. But more so, we need the love of God through Jesus Christ.
Through the love of Christ, we know that every good thing is a gift from God. We have received it because of the mercies of God. If it was not for Christ we would only deserve death and condemnation. Every bad thing will always work out for good, for our reward is in heaven and Christ is sufficient at all times.
My encouragement is, lets stop faking that we have everything figured out. Lets confess our trespasses to one another. Lets pray for one another. Lets point each other to our Lord Jesus Christ as being supremely sufficient.
If We’re Honest – Francesca Battistelli
Truth is harder than a lie
The dark seems safer than the light
And everyone has a heart that loves to hide
I’m a mess and so are you
We’ve built walls nobody can get through
Yeah, it may be hard, but the best thing we could ever do, ever do
Bring your brokenness, and I’ll bring mine
‘Cause love can heal what hurt divides
And mercy’s waiting on the other side
If we’re honest
If we’re honest
Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not
Living life afraid of getting caught
There is freedom found when we lay
our secrets down at the cross, at the cross
It would change our lives
It would set us free
It’s what we need to be